I have .. with my husband for almost 4 years married 8 months.My mother is psychotic and I do not usually say things, people, but I’m losing my mind! She once told me that I will not increase right because I was in a foster home and from a dysfunctional family. (Do not drink, do not do drugs, do not do anything illegal, said homeowners and 3 véhicules.Elle me that I do not understand the money because I have never had a loan. (I said to a fixed rate mortgage on our get home and she kept trying to tell my husband to get a loan at a fluctuating line pressure by lower interest rates. now because of the recession, people lose without fixed prices of their homes!) When I’m sick and stay home calls my house and she complains about how we can not stay at home for me, but if the man is sick, baby! They told my husband that I am jealous of his cousins, because he spends time with them . (I try to stay for me, because they are loud and annoying!) She calls every day to talk about the weather or tell us to come home to eat. She is angry with me because I did not want beside her, we move that did, and my life is hell. renovate He told us how our house and when we parties or meetings, inviting hostess and play at home! they will even call to see who is our home. I called after we returned from our honeymoon, and she asked me if I was my husband’s family thought not good enough, and I told her that I was upset that my mother could not! there because they, when I was younger .. She said passed: “Do you not, I wanted my mother, it might be too” It was not her wedding, it took all of my plans for my marriage destroyed .. they tried to grill, when my father would help, a caterer. I do not know a polite way to tell him to leave us alone! they ruined my marriage and cause more stress than gérer.Je I feel like crying my eyes We decided that we wanted children have, and they told us that we have no children. regard to the person who said anything about American women obese and neglected, get a grip on reality! You have no idea what you’re even talking about, I did not say anything, she works where I work and the control of me every day and has his name on a large number of accounts .. even maison.Mon man run his mouth to her, a lot. we got into a fight, after we were married and after they came home and got on my face.
Short answer: ALWAYS.
Never let anyone push you around, on anything, ever.
Tell the old bat where to get off.
Your issue is really with your husband, not her. He allows her into your lives. You will get NOWHERE fighting with her. You need to insist your husband tell her to respect you and be polite to you or to leave you both alone.
Sounds like you married a mama’s boy. Your MIL shouldn’t be this involved in your life.
I suggest you try and talk to your husband, but I don’t know if he’ll ever stand up to his mother.
In the mean time, DON’T tell her any information like this (about mortgage plans, etc) so she won’t have anything to comment on. Keep the conversation to basic pleasantries like the weather, and try to encourage your husband to do the same.
The less information she has, the fewer personal attacks she’ll be able to make.
Just tell her that although you do appreciate her “concern” that you and your husband will discuss it and come to a decision on your own. If she back talks to you, let her have it!!
“Thank you for your concern but at this point I am not really interested in your opinion of my life.”
That will probably build a high enough wall.
You should stand up the DAY your born. you just have a mommy’s boy. tell to back the F off. he’s your man now. you sound like a smart woman. he’s lucky ,good move on the loan.
I can relate…this reminds me of when my wife went home to West Virginia. We had just bought this beautiful home built in the 30′s overlooking the bay. Well her dumb-ass cousins asked her why she would buy and old used home when you could buy a brand new modular home. We still laugh about this. Your Mom in law is just an uneducated individual. Your a survivor… your proving it.
This is your husband’s mother. It isn’t just your run of the mill rude jerk.
Be cautious and stick up for your beliefs when it is important, otherwise, just ignore her.
My mother was not the nicest person in the world to my wife and I had to be forcefull with her on more than one occasion. I will say though, my mother wasn’t in the same league with your mil. My wife did, for the most part, handle it well and managed to outlive her too.
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i say tell your mother in law off i mean whats her problem tell her to mind her own business to stop running that mouth open!
seriously and tell ur hubby that what ur mom is saying is not true that she’s just psychotic and that she’s not minding her own business on u guy’s privacy i mean it’s time for her to leave you guys alone and to mind her business i mean it’s ur life and not her to worry i mean unless you guys are in a problem then she can help but she probably hates you or something it’s like totally my mom and my grandma (my mom’s mother in law) but my mom told her off and like she still talks to my dad and stuff on his cell phone but like she’s not running her mouth talking bad about my mom in front of me cause i’m gonna tell her off if she says one word about my mom! anyways good luck! with your mother in law
I agree with Nice Lady, your husband needs to talk with his mom and let her know that she needs to respect you. But you are the woman of your house, you can let your mother-in-law know very politely with a demanding tone that you will not allow her to disrespect you. Never allow anyone to take advantage of you.
You married your husband not your mother in law. I just try to ignore ignorant people. Tell your husband how you feel so that he understands why you rather not go and see the cousins and rather stay by yourself. Just ignore her she is the type of person if she doesn’t get a fuss out of you she will find someone else to pick on. But another point to make is you can call anyone a bi#ch as long as you are smiling and laughing, but I really think that would only cause you more problems in future.
your problem isn’t your mother in law. It’s the mama’s boy you married.
Your husband should be standing up for you to his mother and he should not want to live next door to her and have her underfoot.
Change your locks, do not give her a key. Do not answer the phone when she calls and you don’t feel like talking to her. Do not let her into the house if you do not want her in. Do not share personal information with her.
Start standing up for youself NOW. Start demanding that your husband grow up and be a man and not mommy’s little baby.
You can stand up for you self without being an asshole.
If you don’t you WILL always be her doormat and it WILL get worse. I had the same problem with my wife’s family and no matter how hard i tried to get along with them it never worked out so one day i let them all know that from this day on no one would get by with being rude, it took a while but after a few good fights and i never backed up they gave up and let us live our lives.
With the additional info i suggest for your own sanity you DIVORCE and get as far away from these two as possible
It would be easy-er if your husband told her to straighten up but she is domineering and this is unlikely to happen
You should have done it 4 years ago. But since you didn’t, there’s no time like the present to put her where she belongs.
Sweetheart, the only way your mother in law can find out about your business is if you or your husband are telling her!!!!!!
Surely, then, you can figure the cure…. stop talking!!!!!! Geeez.
And have your husband as well stop talking!!!!!!!! Geeez.
Your business is your business… what ARE you thinking???
And of course the other problem you have is that your hubby needs to grow some balls and tell moma, “Mom, that is an inappropriate question.” And then say, “Thank you for your imput.”
Hon, mil’s have no ammo, if you don’t give it to them…. so in a sentence, “shut the hell up,”
YOU SHOULD STAND UP FOR YOURSELF ALL THE DAMN TIME!!! DON’T CARE WHO IT IS…. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF…. NO ONE GOING TO DO IT FOR YOU… YOUR’E A WOMAN… YOU AIN’T NOBODY DAMN PET, OR FOOTSTOOL… YOU NEED TO GET CONFIDENCE AND COURAGE FOR YOURSELF…
The dreaded mother in law syndrome!!!
Yuck!
It does seem that she is going to become the biggest wedge between you your husband and your ability to achieve the best you can in the relationship. She derives her greatest satisfaction and seat of power by undermining her.
Now that you know her nature surely you can predict just about every move she is likely to make concerning anything you are involved in with her son.
Imagine a variety of solutions.
While she is responding in an automated way, you have the power to take control of where she heads to from how you feed her nature.
But you must look at the situation different.
At the moment you are consumed by the injustice of her continual attacks on your credibility.
When you are standing in your own truth you are strong. Stay there.
It is said if one wants to change anything at all in ones life, the first thing to change is ones own attitude towards it.