Before I say anything, I’d like to say that the situation I’m in is completely my fault. My husband and I just purchased our first home and we invited my mother-in-law and sister-in-law to move in with us… to help us out with the new mortgage payment and to help them out. At the time, only my sister-in-law was working and my mother-in-law was receiving unemployment. 10 months later, both are unemployed, not paying any rent (and haven’t paid us anything in 10 months), not paying any bills, paying for a few groceries (junk food… yuck!) and my sister-in-law quit her job on the spot 2 months ago. She is 20 years old and extremely lazy! They both wake up around noon, stay up all night and watch television (which we’re of course paying for and don’t even use ourselves). They both use the telephone constantly and my sister-in-law is constantly using the computer to go on myspace and crap like that. I’m at the point in my relationship and my life where I’m depressed and considering divorce (not really seriously, but it’s crossed my mind). My husband won’t kick them out and I feel like I’m in a catch 22. At this point, I know that I can kick them out, but I feel that if I am the one to do it, I’ll lose either way. I can’t stand them living with us anymore yet I will really damage my relationship with my husband if I say anything to them. My husband and I have started arguing all the time about anything and everything (but it all stems from that). I have told him countless times how I feel yet he can’t kick them out because he feels he owes it to his mom. Single mom who raised him and his sister, let him live with her rent free till he was 30, etc. On a side note so that you get all the facts, she did lend us $ 6,000 for our down payment and has told us not to pay her back until we are in a more comfortable economic situation (when that is, we will never know!). I personally think we’re even on that “loan”, but if it means she’ll move out, I’d like to kick her out and start making payments tomorrow. I know that the answer seems simple, but can you please help me be diplomatic about this… this is family and I love my husband so much… I also love his family when they’re not living with us! Please help!!! Thanks so much!
Wow! LayloolaRose… you are so on it! Thanks to all of you who have responded so far and keep responding. I have become Queen Dictator and it’s just making me more miserable because I am fighting a losing battle for control. I think I can take a little from all of your advice… I know that I have to talk to them and by myself is a good idea because I never meant to use them! P.S. Thank goodness no kids are involved.. yet! But, I won’t have any kids until they’re gone!